Hello and welcome to the House of Faith Ministries. I'm Lisa Kane. I'm recording this on Thursday, May 23rd, 2024. Welcome. I'm still in the Women of Bible, Women in the Bible series, and I'm still in Eve. This will be the third message regarding Eve. But wow, the power and all the revelation coming out of this is incredible. This one is called Restoring Dysfunctional Relationships. Let's open up in a word of prayer. Father God, we thank you for your word and we bless your word that your word does not return void. We pray that your word is so powerful and strong that it impacts our lives and we apply it to our lives and live your word and have great relationships with one another, with ourselves and with you in the name of Jesus. Amen. So to recap, the first message I taught about Eve was being born again, showing you how Jesus set up the born again process beginning with her very neat revelation. You might want to go check that out. The last message or second message that I taught regarding Eve was the perfect relationship that God established with us, which I'm going to do a quick recap here. And then this one is about dysfunctional relationships, restoring that dysfunctional relationship. So, let's go to our opening scripture because I want to do a quick recap here. Uh, Genesis 1:27. So, God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him. Male and female created he them. So male and female make up the image of God. Now how they were formed, Adam and Eve, how they were created teaches us what the perfect relationship is. So Adam was formed in Genesis 2:7. And the Lord God formed man of the dust and breathed into his nostrils the breath of life and man became a living soul. So that's how Adam was created. And then Eve in Genesis 2:21-24, the Lord God caused the deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept, and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof. And the rib which the Lord God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto man. And Adam said, "This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh. She shall be called woman, because she was taken out of man. And therefore shall a man leave his father and and his mother and shall cleave unto his wife and they shall be one flesh. So basically what you're seeing here is Adam's covering goes upon her. So it's like his arm is over her shoulders and then she is tucked right in next to his heart which is protected by the rib cage. Since she's made from the rib, she's part of protector over him. She protects his vitals on the inside. She prays for him. And I showed you in last week's message of teaching how to have the perfect relationship, how to submit to one another. So you'll see that Adam leaves his parents. He's going to cleave to his wife. But both male and female have to look to Christ. Christ is who we follow. So we let go of the traditions of our parents. We cling to Christ. Christ is head of the church. Christ is head of the man. Man is head of the woman. It is a hierarchy power of authority that goes on him. But in that perfect relationship, she submits unto him. She submits unto God. He submits unto God. He loves her and covers her. So you have this established perfect relationship that God has set for us to follow. And this applies to siblings, parents, grandparents, to one another, between you and your boss, between you and your best friend, between you and yourself, and between you and God. This is a relationship that he has established. And how do you have a relationship? You talk with one another. You work it out. You open up the word of God and apply the scriptures. So, for instance, if you do what we taught last week, you need to have a relationship with God first. That means you got to set a time aside for him. Set time aside for him. You need to be praying and you need to be opening up the word of God and you need to be learning it, speaking it and let it just manifest out of you. Now that's between now you apply that in every one of your relationships, mother, daughter, father, daughter, uh siblings and so forth. Well, unfortunately, we have what's called dysfunctional relationships. And it always starts with you, me, the individual, because we sabotage our relationships either knowingly or unknowingly. So, I'm going to show you the perfect dysfunctional relationship where God shows us we have authority over fixing that and correcting it. This is awesome. Talk about the revelation that came out of Eve. This is absolutely incredible. So, let's go see Cain and Abel. Perfect dysfunctional relationship if there ever was one. Genesis 4:4-7. And Abel, he also brought of the first lanes of his flock and of the fat thereof. And the Lord had respect unto Abel and to his offering. Now, that word respect there means to regard, spare, turn. Abel brought a blood sacrifice to God. He took his firstborn of his cattle, whatever animals that he had, he brought that to God and he did a burnt offering to God and he sacrificed them. He shed blood and God was like, "Yeah, I like this. This is what needs to be done." Well, Cain brought he went out and harvested his fruits and vegetables and he brought baskets, however many, but he brought those to God representing his work. He toiled the ground and he worked hard for that. He sweated and God said, "Nope." Because God, what God is saying here is, "I don't want your works. Your works are not going to save you." Do you see the salvation message still through here? Being born again, this all connects together. I hope you guys watch all three messages together. This is incredible. So here God is telling Cain, you cannot save yourself with your works. You have to do what your brother did. Bring the blood sacrifice. But something happens here that causes a relationship to fall. Let's go look at that because Cain is very offended here. Uh verse five, but Cain but unto Cain and to his offer he had not respect and Cain was very wroth and his countenance fell. And the Lord said unto Cain, "Why art thou wroth?" And that word wroth there means glow, grow, warm anger. In other words, he was angry inside so much that his blood pressure is rising and his shade of color is changing. He's now glowing. He's angry. God rejected him. Now, in a dysfunctional relationship, a lot of things goes on. A lot of things take place and happen here where uh you're hurt. It usually starts with you're getting hurt. Somebody didn't like something you said or did. You didn't mean it that way. And and it usually starts with some little spark like that. And instead of showing the authority and dealing with it, which I'm going to show you here what God says, you get angry. Now, we can get angry. The issue is after you get angry, you need to have some self-control and bring that anger back unto God. We're going to see how Cain did not do that. So look at this and I'm going to show you how to bring it back. So why are thou So the Lord said unto Cain, "Why are thou wroth and why is thy countenance fallen?" So verse seven, this is God talking to Cain still. If thou doest well, happy, successful, right? See, if you did the right thing, you're going to be successful. You're going to be in the right standing. It's going to be good. It's going to be well. But you see, we don't always do the right thing. This is us trying to sabotage things because it's the sin that is waring inside of us doing this. So he says, "And if thou doest not well, sin lith at the door, and unto thee shall be his desire." That's sin desiring stretching out, trying to reach through the door to get you, and thou shalt rule over him. You have rule and dominion over sin on the other side of the door is what God is saying here. So in other words, as soon as you get angry, you open the door and sin is right there on the other side, but sin is pulling its arm through the door and is trying to grab you. So you're in this moment, this heated moment of anger, and you are in a state of mind where you need to get some self-control. And we're going to talk about getting some self-control here in a moment. Somebody didn't like something you said. They don't like the way you look. They're in a bad mood today. So, they don't want to have anything to do with you and your happiness. You see, there are all kinds of things that set off or trigger a person. Now, if you're the one being triggered, then it's a demonic. It is sin at the door. And it is sin you need to deal with. And what takes care of sin? Abel established that by the sacrifice of the blood because life is in the blood. Leviticus, let's go there. Look at Leviticus 17:11. For the life of the flesh is in the blood, and I have given it to you upon the altar to make an atonement to cover or cancel for your souls. For it is the blood that maketh an atonement for the soul. So you see, you can get angry, but you got to come back to the blood. You got to go back to Abel. So in other words, do all the works that you want to do, but it ain't going to do you anything. You can try so hard to speak the right words. You can try so hard to bury that anger. You can try so hard to not be a trigger. You can drink as many cups of coffee as you want, thinking that might make you a little happier and give you the energy that you need. But it comes back to the blood. And what do you do with the blood? You have to come back to the cross to holy communion. Now, it starts with confession. And I want you to remember this because now I'm going to take you through some steps of how to get back into the right relationship with God or with yourself or with your lover or with your spouse or with your brother or sister with your parent, your grandparent or with businesses or with your life with you yourself. If you argue with yourself, I typically don't argue with myself, but I do have conversations with myself. I talk to myself all the time. But I give it to the Lord and I just I look and it helps me bounce off the thoughts and ideas with the word of God. That's what I use that for. But however you want to have your relationships, it's going to come back to you need to make a sacrifice of blood. Well, hold on. Christ made the sacrifice of blood. So it takes back going to the cross. And it starts with confession. And remember, salvation is through the confession of the mouth. This is what delivers. This is what heals. This is what saves. Now I want you to see this. Romans 10:9 says that if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus. He's saying you got to speak it out loud. Jesus. So if Cain, he could have, you know what Cain could have done was, I'm sorry, Lord, I did this wrong. Please forgive me. And you know what? God would have done it and it would have been established. Would have been able to go on. Abel Abel would not have been killed. You see, Cain was so angry and sin came through the door, grabbed a hold of him. He could not let it go because he did not confess, he ends up murdering Abel. And because now Abel's blood is crying out to God, avenge me. God knew exactly what happened. God told Cain exactly. You see, Adam and Eve had been teaching Cain and Abel the ways of God. They're raising their children up in the ways of God. Abel was doing it right. Abel got the message. He knew it was blood. Cain said, "Well, you know what? I'm going to one up him and I'm going to work hard for this and God's going to love it." But he was wrong. And instead of confessing, he just got angry and and notice he was angry at God. But he couldn't do anything to God. So, he went after Abel. This is when you're in anger, you lash out at anyone who didn't even have anything to do with why you're angry. You just lash at them. You're a mean, ugly person on the inside. This is why I said it starts with you on the inside. So, if somebody's lashing out at you, you're the one in the self-control, hopefully, or you're the one that's lashing out. Whatever role you're in, it starts with confession. Let's go back to the scripture that if thou shalt confess with confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus and shall believe in thine heart that God raised him from the dead, thou shalt be saved. Look at the word saved. Delivered, protected, healed, preserved, whole. Cain could have come back and had forgiveness and mercy. Instead, he chose not to. So now once you confess Jesus over your life and you can confess Jesus over your anger, your hatred, and and the hurt you're feeling, you're hurt. Most people are lashing out because somebody hurt them for one reason or another. Um attacked them, rejected them, rejected their kind of love, uh didn't like the, you know, they were in love with you initially, got what they wanted, and then left you in the wind. There's lots of relationships like that. Uh if your family, money becomes an issue, you guys are fighting against that. Um but it's sin that's come in and it starts with confessing Jesus Lord as Lord of your s of your soul. Jesus over your soul. Jesus over your mouth. Jesus over your hate. Jesus over your unforgiveness. You see, part of the relationship is to forgive. And in order to forgive, you need to have self-control. So, we're going to get into that here in just a moment, but I want you to see how holy communion takes us back to the cross to restore us. And I want you to catch this is very powerful. 1 Corinthians 11:24 and 25. And when he had given thanks, he broke it and said, "Take, eat. This is my body which is broken for you. This do in remembrance of me." He's talking about the bread. So, he's taking bread. He's breaking pieces of of it off and he shares it at the table there with his apostles uh and his disciples and they are taking the bread and they're eating it in remembrance of what Christ is going to do on the cross. So Jesus is telling us and Paul's reiterating here when you do this, you do this in remembrance of Christ. So you confess Jesus as your Lord and Savior, but you're going to recognize that Christ went to the cross for your healing, your deliverance. See, you are healed spiritually and physically by the broken bread. You're healed physically because of the stripes. By his stripes, you were healed. You're also healed because of spiritually. If you're in anger, you can let go of the anger by partaking and taking the bread, the bread. Taking Christ, bringing Christ back into you. You're saying, "Jesus, I remember you in the cross. Jesus, I'm taking your bread into my body to restore and heal me spiritually and physically because I need it because I'm angry. I'm hurt. Somebody's hurt me and I'm upset about it. I need your help. This is how you take your dysfunctional relationship back to Christ. Now look what he says about the blood. Verse 25. After the same manner also he took the cup when he as saying, "This cup is the new testament covenant in my blood. This do ye as often as you drink it in remembrance of me. Covenant. You see, Jesus came and made a new covenant with mankind. Now remember back in the days before the flood, they were dealing with innocence and God judged them with the flood. So that part was already taken. But the new covenant is Christ through his blood. God has been asking for blood this entire time. Now the blood is where life is and Christ is life. And remember, I proved in the first teaching that Christ is the one who said, "Let there be light." He's the one who's forming man and manifesting life in them because Christ is life. The word became flesh and the word was with God in the beginning. John 1:1. This is Christ manifesting life. So what you do when you take the holy communion, you're saying, "Christ the life, come back into me. heal me, restore me physically, spiritually, and let the blood cleanse me because that's what the blood does. Now remember, and let's go look at how the principle works here. I want you to see this. Romans 7:21-25. And I find then a law, a principle that when I would do good, evil is present with me. For I delight or rejoice in the law of God after the inward man. I think I hit that too many times. Let's go back. There you go. But I see another law principle in my members waring against or attacking destroying the law of my mind and bringing me into captivity to the law of sin which is in my members. Remember sin is at the door. The door opened because of the anger. So there's a war going on because we were born into sin. You see Cain hadn't sinned yet. But we were born on the other side of the door. Sin was let in when Adam and Eve sinned. So the door was open and Cain had an opportunity to avoid it and he didn't. Again, we have an opportunity to avoid a dysfunctional relationship if we choose to walk away from sin, which means confess Jesus as our Lord and Savior. Take of the cup, the broken bread, and the blood. bring life back into our bodies. Forgive. We have to let it go. That's what the word forgive means, by the way, is to let go of the anger. You could be all right and justify it all you want, but I'm going to tell you right now, that don't mean a thing. You let the sin in. And you have to deal with the sin. Doesn't matter if you're right. You got angry and you felt justified. You still let in sin. You have to deal with that sin. And to do that, you have to do this battle. Look what Paul's describing it as. I want you to see this. This is so very powerful. He says, "But I see another law in my members, waring against the law of my mind and bringing me into captivity to the law of sin which is in my members. Oh wretched man that I am. Who shall deliver rescue me from the body of this death? I thank God through Jesus Christ our Lord." So then with the mind, the intellect, I myself serve the law of God, but with the flesh, the law of sin. So you see, there's a battle going on. You've got sin that you have to deal with that's in the flesh. But your mind can shut that door by calling, confessing Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior because Jesus is the one who fulfilled all of this. He's the one who applied the perfect blood to the mercy seat in the ark of the covenant. So because of that the satisfaction, God had satisfaction with the blood of Jesus. It met the law. It fulfilled it. It was done. So now all we have is grace, confession of Jesus as our Lord and Savior and letting it go. We have the authority. You saw that God gave the authority to Cain to dominion and to have dominion over sin. And the best part of it is is after you do this, even though you're still fighting in that flesh and you're still struggling, because we struggle every day with the attacks on our mind, we can sometimes fantasize about things that happen in relationships that don't. This is why some of us, I'm certain my man is cheating on me or doing this or doing that. You have no proof. You think it. You got to capture your mind and get it under self-control. Look at what he says though. As soon as you confess Jesus, because that was Romans 7, the last end of the verse of Romans 7. Now we're in Romans 8:1 and2. It says, "There is therefore now no condemnation. There's no verdict to them which are in Christ Jesus." You see, sin is the devil going to the courtroom of God and saying, "See, he did this. He did this. He did this." Christ is saying, "I forgive. I forgive. I forgive." And if you're going to be Christlike, you need to forgive yourself of these hatred, sinful uh relationships that you're sabotaging. You have to forgive yourself. You've got to for let Christ forgive you. And then you have to have this mindset. Look, it says, "Now there is therefore now no condemnation to them which are in Christ Jesus, who walk not after the flesh, but after the spirit." See, you confess Jesus. Now you walk in the spirit. Because when you get water baptized, you're watered. You go under in the water, you come up in the spirit. So you can see how being born again, confessing Jesus, getting baptized, having holy communion, and coming up in the spirit, walking in the spirit, this is you having a perfect relationship with Christ. Your mind can say, "Now there is no condemnation because I'm in Christ Jesus and I'm walking after the spirit." Verse two, for the law of the spirit of life in Christ Jesus, For the law of the spirit of life in Christ Jesus hath made me free from the law of sin and death. Death. You are liberated from sin and death. Cain wandered the rest of his life wandered the wilderness and was never satisfied and never was able to get what he needed out of the ground. He wandered and he was destroyed. That was his life. You do not want that kind of life. You do not live in the wilderness. You are now liberated because there is no more condemnation. Oh death. Oh death, where is your sting? You see, you're saved the moment you confess Jesus. You're saved spiritually, eternally in heaven. But you're also saved out of those dysfunctional relationships. You're saved out of the sickness that comes from it in your flesh. You are saved because you confess Jesus. You confess Jesus. You confess Jesus and you forgive and you let it go. And you've taken the Holy Communion, which is what restores you every time because it reminds you to go back to the cross every single time. Now, here's the key. Because you want to have that self-control. Look, Galatians 5:22 and 23. But the fruit of the spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, meekness, temperance. Against such against such there is no law. Temperance is self-control. All of these fruits should be manifesting out of you. You see, you should be able to confess Jesus and ask God to come into your heart and ask for the gift, the fruits of the spirit. Say, "Lord, I need some self-control. Help me not get angry. Help my mind stay focused on you. I don't want to be fantasizing about what someone could be doing behind my back or someone's lying and cheating behind my back." Or if I think that, then I should be praying for them, forgiving them and giving them to Christ and then forgive myself. That is the type of relationship that Christ has for us today. So if you are the one that's acting out, you need to confess and bring it back to the Lord. If you're the one confessing, then when someone lashes out to you, you need to pray for them and give them to Christ and let it go. And it stops sin in its tracks. But the self-control is what you need so you don't lash out in anger. Because if you're lashing out in anger, all you're doing is just feeding the sin with fire and it's just gonna because that's what it does. But remember, let's go back to Cain. Let's go back to what God said. He says, "If thou doest well, shalt thou not be accepted? And if thou doest not well, sin lith at the door. And unto thee shall be his desire." See, sin wants to get us. and thou shalt rule over him. You have dominion over sin. You have the authority. All you got to do is say, "Jesus, help me. Jesus, help me have self-control. Jesus, keep me from temptation." The Lord's Prayer. Hallowed be thy name. Thy kingdom come. Thy will be done on earth as it is in heaven. Give us this day our daily bread. and forgive us our debts as we forgive those uh forgive us our as we forgive those the debtors against us keep us from evil and deliver us keep us from the temptations and deliver us I'm paraphrasing that you can go look it up I just it's an impromptu thing I did here so I don't have the scripture here but I encourage you to go read that prayer talk to God establish your relationship with him so he works in you a good work and you're helping him because confessing Jesus over your anger, your hatred, your your unforgiveness, even the right thinking. You think you're right. Hey, God's always going to find something wrong with you. We're we're in the flesh. We're human. But what we can do is confess Jesus, praise him, worship him, walk with him, have that holy communion so that we stay reminded of what he did on the cross, reminded of the dominion over sin that he has given us. We have the right to fight sin off. And it's an ongoing battle. Which means though, we can have a right to the perfect relationship that God designed for us. The man's covering over us. He's not beating us because we're in the crook of his arm. He loves us. We're protecting his vitals by praying and keeping sin out. praying for our man, praying for our woman. Because we go to God with our issues. We go to God with our relationships. We say, "In Jesus, I pray for my husband. In the name of Jesus, I pray for my wife. In the name of Jesus, I pray for my children. In the name of Jesus, I pray for my parents. In the name of Jesus, I pray for my siblings." And what's happening is you're looking to God, which is what the image of God, ma, male and female, have been created to do for that perfect relationship. So you can take the anger, the hatred, the the dysfunctional, sabotaged relationships around you and bring them right back to Jesus. Take your holy community to have that relationship with Christ. stand with Christ and put Christ first in your heart and in your mouth. Let Christ be spoken out first in your mouth because it's what you have a cloud of witnesses that are around you. So, I I wasn't going to go into this, but that cloud of witness is God. It's Jesus, the Holy Spirit, angels, demons. They're out there watching you and they take advantage of you. Especially demons, they're looking for the words that you're going to say that's going to let them have that door open for them so that sin can reach its hand out and grab you. Well, I'm shutting that door. I don't want sin there. Yeah, I'm I'm right about this relationship, but you know what? Uh-uh. Shutting the door. I'm going to go to Christ and just pray. I'm gonna let the spirit handle it because it's not my by works. It's by the blood and the spirit is came from the blood. Jesus established the church with water and blood and then he sent the spirit for the day of Pentecost right after that. That's how this works. This is the perfect relationship that you can have and bring it back to that perfect relationship. And I hope that you do that. Amen. Let's uh close in a word of prayer. Father God, we thank you for your word and we bless your word. You are mighty and holy. And I pray that we call upon the name of the Lord and are saved from anger, from hatred, from unforgiveness. And I pray that we have self-control to be able to confess Jesus over our relationships and that we can walk in that perfect relationship with you, Father God. For you truly are amazing, glorious, and faithful and wonderful. Oh Lord, we love you. Thank you, Lord. Let this message not be stolen by the devil. Let it stay in our minds and hearts and let us apply it in our lives in the name of Jesus. Amen. Amen. God bless you. I'll see you in the next message. Bye-bye.