Hello and welcome to the House of Faith Ministries. I'm Lisa Kaine. I'm recording this on Thursday, May 16th, 2024. Welcome. I'm in a series called Women of the Bible. And today we're going to be talking again about Eve. is kind of like a part two, but in this case, we're going to be talking about Eve in relationships because the foundation or the construct of relationship is built at the time Eve is created. So, I want to show you that, teach it to you, and hopefully help you understand how to change yourself to have better relationships with your spouse, with your parents, with your children, with your co-workers, and so on and so forth. Amen. Let's open up in a word of prayer. Father God, we thank you for your word, and we bless your word that it does not return void. We ask that your word penetrates our heart and that the enemy does not take away the word that you plant in our hearts. That you plant it with the seed and that it manifests and grows within us. That your word stands strong in us. That we are very good at relationships and we can stand in your relationship that you have given us. Thank you, Father God, for your blessings, for your honor, for your glory, for everything that you do, have done, and will do in the name of Jesus. Amen. Amen. Amen. So, we're talking about women of the Bible and we're still in Eve. This is I guess you can call it a part two, but in reality, the first one was called Eve Born Again. This one's called Eve relationship. Let's go to our opening scripture. So, we're going to start again with the same scripture we did before. Genesis 1:27. So, God created man in his own image. In the image of God created he him, male and female created he them. I want to reiterate this part and let me um lay a foundation here. First, there are two books of the Bible that are most attacked. Genesis is one of them. Revelation is the other. So, if you're not hearing teachers and preachers in your listening, whether at church or on your online listening of teachers and preachers, if they're not teaching on Genesis and Revelation, supplement your listening. add in teachers that are teaching in Genesis and Revelation because it is so profound to know how it began, what God plans to do, what he does in the middle, and then how he ends it all. If you understand the whole thing, it makes a lot more sense for you to believe in it. Amen. Second, I want to lay down a foundation of your faith. The enemy has attacked the book of Genesis. So much so that there are teachers and preachers trying to force evolution into scripture. Well, scripture does not talk about evolution at all. Evolution is not possible. I taught on this. I don't want to delve into it too much. You can go back and look at the teaching I did. It's under other teachings in the houseof faithministries.org website. But I can assure you that evolution is not true. He created male and female. And for all of those that are having identity crisis, this word is for you because this is going to show you what the male and the female are made and what we're made to do. This is going to help our relationships with one another and help us have that great relationship with our Christ. Amen. So here we see that God says, so God created man. By the way, that word man is self. It's like we're we're God's self, but he made us in an image, which means a phantom or a shade. So we're God's self here on the earth. Not in the full light and capacity of who he is because he's spirit. We're in the flesh, but we are made in that image. Meaning the potential is there. And he says in the image of God. Now that word God there means plural. So created he him. He him. God the father. God the son. God the son is here. This is Jesus doing all of this. And I hope you are grasping that. In the beginning was the word and the word was God and the word was with God. This is John 1 verse one that I paraphrase there. You can go check it out. But this is Jesus here in the beginning who said let there be light. And there was light. Well, he is the one making God in his image with his father because he him. So they're making him or making us in his image. And then look what he says. He him male and female created in them. So you have God the father, God the son, God the holy spirit. So you have that it's like one God with three functions and now you have male and female who come out of those three functions. So God, you know, I talked about being born again, and I did that in the last message. Again, I'm not going to reiterate that, but that gives you an idea of how we become born again in the spirit. So, we're born of the flesh and then we're born of the spirit. And once you become born of the spirit, you enter into the kingdom of God, which is the ministry here on the earth. Your heavenly realm begins here on the earth when you believe and accept him. Amen. But now, let's look again. I want to look again at how Adam is created and Eve is created because you're going to see the construct of relationship built right into this. So, start with Adam. Uh, Genesis 2:7, "And the Lord God formed man of the dust of the ground and breathed into his nostrils the breath of life, and man became a living soul." So God basically just squeezed and formed the mud and the dirt and then he made Adam and he breathed into his nostrils and put life there. Awesome. This is great. This is how man is started. But you see man as himself cannot procreate the way he is created. There are self organisms out there that do self-create self-procreate. But male and female human beings do not self-procreate. You need a man and you need a woman. God says, "Adam needs a helpmate." So, here's how Eve is created. Watch this. Genesis 2:21-24. And the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept. And he took one of his ribs and closed up the flesh instead thereof. And the rib which the Lord God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man. And Adam said, "This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh. She shall be called woman because she was taken out of man. Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother and shall clean cleave or cling and here catch unto his wife and they shall be one flesh." Okay. Now this is where the relationship part comes into existence. Last week, I showed you the visual representation of the man holding his arm. He covers his wife. She's tucked in under here because she's made of the rib and the rib cage is what protects the vital organs of the man. She becomes the protector of him and all of his parts. Now, interesting enough, Adam says he has to leave his parents. He has to loose them in and he he becomes one flesh with her. He marries her and they become one flesh. Now, I want you to catch this here. When he and her, male and female, become one flesh, he lets go of his parents. doesn't say for her to let go of her parents. I want you to catch this because now we're going to develop build a construct of a relationship here of how this works. When the man leaves his parents to cleave to his wife, what belief system does he believe in? if he has to leave his parents because the parents is what instills in us the beliefs that we're going to have later in life. We are greatly influenced by our parents whether it is good or bad. Whether there's a bad parent or a good parent, you are influenced by them. You may say, "I don't ever want to be like my parents." and you may end up being just like them because you don't know how to change that which I'm going to teach here how to change that. So when Adam leaves his parents what is he doing? He has to go back to the original construct God made Adam and God breathed into his nostrils. Adam is of God. So what does the man do? He leaves the parental beliefs. He lets them. He looses them. The influence is still there. But he has to part of his belief system now changes. He becomes a believer of God. And his rock and his foundation becomes the word of God, which is Christ who establishes. This is what the man is set up to be close to God because God breathed the word of God into his nostrils and he became life. because we know that Jesus is life. So understand that life is in the man. And so the man is the one that's going to be going directly to God, not his parents. Now I want you to see how Paul explains this in detail so that we can understand what's going on here. You have man who is going to Christ. Just like Christ is the head of the church, man is going to be head of the woman. Let's go to Ephesians and look at this. Ephesians 5:21-33. So verse uh 21, submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God. Paul is clearly telling us that the two male and female are to submit unto God unto one another. Look, let's read that again. Yourselves one to another in the fear of God. Meaning God comes first. So you have him first. So male and female became one flesh. So remember, if God breathed into Adam's nostrils and you become one flesh with him, God has breathed it into you too, woman. You are now part direct with God under the covering of your man. This is how this works. Look at verse 22. Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands as unto the Lord who is supreme authority. So if you're giving your obedience to the word of God in fear of God as we ought to as Christians, then we're to do this woman at unto our man. See, and if you're praying for your man that, which is what I taught on last week's message, I'm going to tell you, he is going to be the man of God that he needs to be to have his covering over you. You are going to have that perfect relationship because of you and the authority that you've been given to pray over your man and his covering be upon you. But you are one before God. I hope you're seeing the outer shell now of the relationship construct that God has given us. Now look at Ephesians 5:23. For the husband is the head of the wife. So Paul is explaining it here. The husband is the head of the wife even even as Christ is the head of the church and he is the savior deliverer of the body. Okay. Now let me explain this because I think a lot of this has been distorted. I think um what the world is showing us that women have to do everything the man tells her. What this means it's a hierarchy. Okay. Someone has to make the final decision whether we agree or disagree. Again, here's the construct of the relationship establishing man as the final decision maker. But you woman have a lot of influence over your man. You can explain to him. You're praying to to God and you're praying your influence that you have from the word of God in you. But both of you should be seeking God and having God's scripture be upon you. And he makes the final decision. It could be whether to buy a house now, whether to go into ministry. And whether he makes a right or wrong decision, he's the final decision maker. You continue praying for him. You continue to let the Holy Spirit. And I'm going to tell you right now, many times he's going to make the right decision if your relationship is in Christ. Because what's happening is he doesn't have the whole picture. You don't have the whole picture. But because it's his responsibility to make that final decision, Christ, if you guys are in unity, you're following this, God is going to bless you. Meaning it will be the right decision made. So this is how what submitting unto your husband means. Now the word submit I it in the Hebrew uh Greek uh Strong's dictionary it's G5293. By the way the word subject and submit is the same word and it simply means to subordinate to obey be under obedience put under subdue unto subject yourself to if you're subjecting yourself to God and your man is who you're with and and and he's a believer in Christ. Now, I'm talking as being a believer in Christ. We're going to I'm going to show you how to work other areas around this for non-believers and so forth. I'll get to different types of relationships here in a moment, but in the meantime, let's just set the foundation and the construct of what the Bible tells us a relationship should be. That's what I'm focusing on. So, wives, you're submitting, you're obeying your husband, but at the same time, your husband's obeying Christ, and you're obeying Christ. So, the woman has a two-parter. She's not only obeying Christ and his word, she's obeying her husband. And I'm going to tell you right now, woman, you have the authority to go to God and tattle on your husband. You do. If he's the one that's veering off and doing something wrong. And by the way, women, we have such intuition. We know what's going on. This is why we have this gift and this talent because this is what God gave us. We're aware. So, we know what to pray for. And by the way, if you go watch that movie, the war room, you can see what power does, the power of prayer, what prayer does. It is very powerful. You can definitely pray a change in the situation. Now you can see where the relationship rock and the foundation is Christ. He should be in the word of God and she should be in the word of God, but she lets him make the final decisions. She can give him all the advice and everything. But there's something here that shows us something that is very interesting. Now, did I read verse 24? Let me make sure I read verse 24. Therefore, as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands. So, you see, I was just explaining that. And look at what it says in verse 23, the end part of 23. And he is the savior, deliverer of the body. So, you're the one flesh. Now, your flesh when you're not in Christ becomes sick. If you're ever wondering why you get sick from time to time, wonder what you did the weeks before that. Were you cursing yourself? Were you not obeying the word of God? As one flesh, you male and female need to be obeying the word of God. If you've been thinking fleshly thoughts, it is highly likely that the Lord is going to send correction. This is why the woman has the intu in intuition the way she does. But the same thing for a woman. If you're thinking fleshly thoughts and you're not praying for your man, you're the one causing the enemy to come in. You need to humble yourself before Christ. How do you do that? You have to obey Christ. And we're going to show you how to submit here in just a minute. I want you to see that. But see, he's the deliverer of the body. Look at that. And he is the he is the savior deliverer of the body. So, if you want you and your husband to have a healthy relationship, to be one flesh, healthy, and whole, you've got to have Christ in there, which means you're praying Christ into him. He should be praying for you. You guys should be praying to Christ for each other. You guys should be in the word of God because you're now operating as one. And he has to be the head because he has to make the final decisions. Nine out of 10en times the man typically listens to the woman. Every once in a while he'll he'll get a mood based on my experience. Uh he'll get in a mood where he's going to want to do his own thing. But uh and and stand strong and say I really want to do this. Well then great go do that. Nine out of 10 times he gives a woman typically what she wants. Just keep that in mind as you're you're doing this. But remember you are to humble yourself to Christ and to God. Now, what this is showing and and I want to also go this extra step and explain what you're doing here because this is very powerful. Let's go to Proverbs. I want you to see something in Proverbs. Proverbs 25:28. He that hath no rule or control over his own spirit is like a city that is broken down and without walls or protection. Self-ontrol plays a huge role in here. Why? Look at the construct of how he developed this relationship. You're to submit unto your husband. What if he wants to do something you don't want to do? Now, here comes self-control. And not to bury it in bitterness, but you're to have self-control and to humble yourself before the Lord and let it go. which means you got to let it go. Which, by the way, the word let it go is to forgive. So, he wanted to do something you didn't want to do. Let's say it was the dishes. You didn't want to do them, and you're like, "I just need you to do them tonight." And he says, "No." Well, guess what? You're the one who needs to humble yourself in self-control. You do not control him for that matter. He does not control you. The two of you have no control over each other. You have to work together. This is why the woman submits to her husband. So, she's going to have to do the dishes. Just do them and say, "Lord, thank you." And I give you the glory. But pray. Pray that he is more responsive to you. I'm going tell you, there's been nights where we've had stuff like that happen. And in a day or two, there's my husband doing the dishes. is I'm going to do them for you today cuz I see it's very hard on you and I I understand and I respect that. So, I'm going to come and do these for you today. And it will shock you because this is how the relationship has been established. You see, a lot of people get divorced over reasons of, well, he's not doing what I want him to do. He's not being the person I want him to do or the person I expected him to be when I married him. Well, guess what? We all change as we age. You may marry, let's say, at 25 or 30, but I'm going to tell you, that's not the same. You're not the same person when you turn 40 as you were at 30. He's not going to be the same person as as you were at 30. He's going to be different at 40. Going to be different at 50. Especially if Christ is working in him. He's going to change and turn into a man of God. And he may change faster than you. or you may change faster than him. And there could be comments that flare up between you that, oh, you're going to be that holier than that person. You're going to correct me here. They'll do that. I've experienced it. And it's like, well, Lord, I'm just going to give it to you. I humble myself before you. He belongs to you. And I'm sure that he's going to come back and say the same thing. Hey, Christ, she wants you. You know, I'm going have to let you take care of him. But we're one flesh trying to stay in unity before Christ. Now, let's look at this further in Galatians 5. This is how you get self-control. And this is so you're not controlling him or you're not and he's not controlling you because you can't control another person, but you can control yourself. So, look at how this is done. It says in Galatians 5:22-23, but the fruit of the spirit, stop right there, it is a spiritual thing. Remember, when we're born again, this is based on the last message I taught. You're born again in water and spirit. You go under the water baptism, you come up, the dove of the spirit comes upon you, allowing you to work in the ministry, which is by the spirit of God. When you lay hands on the sick, there's nothing powerful or special or magical about your hands. You lay your hands on the sick expecting the spirit to move. And the spirit says, "I got you. let's go ahead and move because that's the act of faith and God works by faith. So the hands do nothing other than being the conduit of faith for Christ to move through and the spirit of God to move through and heal that other person. So you're operating in the spirit. So when you go to operate in self-control, it has to be done by the spirit. So it says, "But the fruit of the spirit is love." That word love there means affection or benevolence. Now you got feelings here and you like my husband will do the dishes from time to time. Do the dishes from time to time. He'll say, "You know what? I got I got these. Let me do this." That's benevolence. He's given me a gift. Oh, hallelujah. He did the dishes. It's the little things in life that we have to appreciate. Amen. Uh joy. But the fruit of the spirit is love. Joy. Joy is a cheerfulness, calm, delight. in the spirit, you will always be calm. And and we need to be calm when we're talking to our spouses because it's so easy for anger to flare up. This is why we need to be asking for God to fill us with the fruit of the spirit. That's how this works. Watch this. Let's look at all of it. Peace, that's prosperity, quietness, rest, longsuffering, meaning you're forbearing, fortitude. Sometimes you have to forebear what your husband is saying and doing because it can be a pain and you're just like but you have the right to tattle on him and give him to God. Say Lord I'm going to be forbearing here. I'm going to be longsuffering because I'm going to act and walk in the fruit of the spirit that you have given me. At the same Lord, at the same time, Lord, I am asking you to work in him and to work in me so that we can become unified in the one flesh that we are to be. So you this is a gift of the Holy Spirit. Gentleness and word gentleness means useful usefulness or moral excellence in character. It's again taking the actions. He does the dishes. You pick up his shoes. You do his laundry. These are things that the household does. He takes out the treasures. It's kind of like we've established these male and female roles, but you can exchange them any time. It's it's not set in stone, but the whole point of it is to have the character of being useful in your relationship, doing what you need to build that relationship. See what he needs in that moment. Help him achieve his needs. Because you know what? When you help him achieve his needs and he helps you achieve your needs, the calmer and the more bound the two of you get closer to one another because you're working now toward each other's needs and it benefits you in the long run. So neat to see that goodness, that's your virtue. Faith, persuasion and credence, you're going to Christ in faith. Meekness, that's your humility. Temperance, self-control. Against such there is no law. So since you can't control him, he can't control you. You need to control yourself. It is a gift of the spirit. How do you do it? Romans 10:9 tells us that when that if you confess Jesus with your mouth, so you say, "Jesus, I confess self-control over me in your name." That's how you get the fruits of the spirit. You say, "Lord, fill me up with your self-control. I need it and I need you to help me with it. I need you to help me with goodness, with my faith. Jesus, Jesus, Jesus." And you're calling upon the name of Jesus with your mouth spoken out loud because you're letting all your witnesses, cloud of witnesses, know what's going on. and see a lot of relationships break up because of you're trying to control him and change him. He's trying to control you and change you because all of a sudden you don't like each other anymore. It's not about liking one another. Now it's about liking yourself and placing self-control on you. Praying for the other. Pray for yourself and pray for him. I'm promising you right now when you're praying, you are entering into the relationship with Christ, which is exactly what you need in order to have a relationship with your man or your woman. This is the construct of a relationship. So prayer is a part of that because you're talking with God. You're he said, "Come just as you are. Take reason with God as Isaiah 1 says, come let us reason together. Talk to him. say, "I'm having trouble here." But also tell him, "Help me and help him." See, when you pray for the two of you, now you're letting Christ in as the rock and the foundation of the two of you together. Hallelujah. Now, let's look at the rest of the relationship. Ephesians 5, we're back to Ephesians 5. Now, in verse 25, husbands, love your wives. That means and that's a social or moral sense obligating obligation love out of duty. You need to love her. So if you're not feeling the moment, get her some flowers. If you're not feeling the moment, do the laundry. Because see, I'm going to tell you that is your s social your moral sense and your social obligation, your duty. Even as Christ also loved the church, what did Christ do? He gave himself for it. You give yourself to the relationship. you do what you need to do to improve it and make it better. And it needs to be coming from both sides. And I promise you, if you're praying for the other, God is working in the other as he's working in you. uh verse uh 26 that he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word that he might present it to himself a glorious church not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing that but that it should be holy and without blameless blemish faultless God is making the one flesh become his image look at that it's to be sanctified cleansed you guys are working as one. This is how the relationship that God established works. This is the construct of it. Look at verse 28. So ought men to love. Again, there's that social moral sense obligation. Their wives as their own bodies. We both shower every day. We both take care of ourselves. We try to eat a little healthy, walk a little more. And if we're not, that's okay. We still want to satisfy who we are. We eat the foods we like. That's just the way that is. But we eat it because we like it. That's of oursel. We're taking care of ourselves. So with that action, that's how you take care of your wives, men. And he that loveth his wife loveth himself. For no man ever yet hated his own flesh, but nourisheth and cherisheth even as the Lord the church. This is so powerful. So as we're set up in the church is how we set up in the home between male and female. It's the construct. So what Jesus does to the church, look what he does for the church in verse 30. For we are members of his body, of his flesh and of his bones. For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother and shall be joined unto his wife and they shall and they too shall be one flesh. This is a great mystery. But I speak concerning Christ and the church. This is why when men are told to leave their parents, they cling to God. They go back to God. The breath of God, the nostrils in him. And that breath is what sustains the new flesh, male and female, in his image. Look at verse 33. Nevertheless, let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself and the wife see that she reverence her husband. Boy, I'm going to tell you right now, when you see the power of prayer work in your husband or in your wife, you're going to be like, man, God is real. And you're going to be in awe. In awe to God for what he's doing and in awe to the changes to each other in you. You're going to see that you are not the same person you were 15 years ago, 20 years ago, five minutes ago, before you even listen to this message. Let the anointing of the Holy Spirit change you and work in you simply by asking for self-control and praying for your spouse and having the relationship with Christ because he built this construct for us to be in Christ. Now, I'm trying to keep all these messages to 30 minutes. So, next week I'm going to go ahead and work on the relationships that are broken already. That's what we're going to do. We're going to go into the divorced relationships, the broken relationships, and how to restore them. Since I didn't have time to do that, we're going to do that. So, we will be talking about Eve again next week. Amen. Let's pray. Let's close in a word of prayer. Father God, we thank you for your word and we bless your word and we honor you. We worship you and praise you for you are God and you are King, Lord, and Savior. You belong to me. You belong to us. We belong to you. And I thank you, Father God. And I pray that the enemy does not take this word from our hearts, but that we confess the name of Jesus over our lives. That we ask act on self-control with the spirit of God in our in our hearts and minds that we know to come to you and glorify you and honor you and worship you. In the name of Jesus, we pray. Amen. Amen. God bless you. I'll see you in the next message. Byebye.